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Succeeding despite the Crisis: A true story

Meera:

As you went through the coaching journey in the last few months with me, what really changed for you?

Client:

I would say, my general perspective to life. So normally I would look at things from an external point of view, hoping that I can fix what is happening around me, to make myself happy. What I learned was that I am responsible for making myself happy. Regardless of all the things happening around me, I can make a choice about how it affects me. I realized that I can say, “You know what, regardless of everything happening, I want to be happy!”

Meera:

Wonderful! How has that realization and our work impacted you professionally and privately?

Client:

What has been really amazing about this experience is that despite signing up for leadership coaching to further my career, I have seen its effects in all areas of my life: my relationship with my husband, my relationship with the kids, even my relationship with my sister, my friends, everything has improved as a result of it.
And the reason why is because it has to do with me. Once I change, it affects everything else around me.

Meera:

Wow, beautiful. I remember we talked a few times about imposter syndrome, right? And, not speaking up enough, how have things changed on that front?

Client:

I think a lot of times, when we’re not conscious about what is happening, we kind of just go with the flow and things happen to us. But again, what I’ve learned working with you is that I’ve become so much more conscious about everything. I find myself in situations where I still question myself, “Do I know enough to answer the question? Do I need to answer that question to get visible?” I have now learnt to put these doubts aside. I ask the question, it doesn’t matter whether it is right or wrong. It’s my opinion, so I state it. The imposter syndrome still comes up, where I’m like, “Oh, am I in the right place?” But I’ve developed the ability to be always conscious. And as you say, recognizing and putting it aside is more than half the battle.

Meera:

Oh wow. Yes, it’s a powerful way to handle imposter syndrome. When you label something, it sort of uses its power over you, and your true power emerges.
Okay, cool. So, what will you do differently in life going forward?

Client:

Yes. I’ve already started to do things differently. It’s also about taking care of myself. One of the reasons why I initially struggled, was that I was doing everything for everyone else, apart from myself you know? So I wasn’t giving myself enough, and I was running around feeling crazy.
So the core thing that I would do differently, or what I have already started doing differently, and I will continue is to always remember that I need “food” as well. You know, I’m a mom, I’m a wife and everything else, but I’m also ME. And I need to take that time for myself.
So even if I just sit down and read a book or do some meditation, or I got this nice board, um, in my work room where I basically just write some nice quotes. So I have stayed conscious, confident and humble.
I feel amazing that every morning I basically think about something nice that I want to remember the whole day. And I write it on that board I mentioned. So whatever is happening on the day, I keep looking at it, you know, and it just makes me smile.

Meera:

Brilliant. And I know you also started running consistently.

Client:

Yes! I started running. I maintain a regular fitness routine as well. Even if I can’t run, we bike or I generally just dance.

Meera:

If we were to be specific, are there any other results you want to talk about with respect to work or home, or just in general, as a result of coaching?

Client:

I’ve been really wanting to tell you this!. So, remember we discussed about me asking for a pay rise? So I actually did have the conversation. I stated my case as we discussed … and I got it.
I didn’t even have to talk too long. You know, I followed some of the principles you guided me with: state the facts, keep it short, simple & relevant. And that was what I did!

Meera:

I am so proud of you! You’ve executed it very well. It’s like a muscle, right? You built that muscle. You now know how to do that, how to stand in your power, in every scenario.
So one last question. What would you tell people.. especially to somebody who’s sitting on the fence and considering working with me for instance? What will your advice to them be?

Client:

The LinkedIn post I wrote recently mentioning that I worked with you.. when I was thinking about writing the posts, I was worried about my work colleagues knowing about it. Because I thought they might feel like she needed help and all of that. But what I’ve realized is that needing help is not the weakness. You know, there comes a point where, you know, you personally can take yourself as far as you can to some point, and after that you just need some help. So asking for help is not the weakness in any way, I think it is a strength instead of staying there and struggling, falling apart.
The biggest strength you can have is to accept that (you’re dealing) it’s too much and seek help, find a solution, to make life better. So anybody sitting on the fence, I would say the, the first thing is don’t be afraid asking for help, it is not a sign of weakness. So if you accept that you need help and you get that help, then it makes you so much better, a better person. You just don’t wait for things to work out passively, you can actually make that thing you want come to life. So many strong benefits I would say, and it feels great because you feel like you have a hand in making that happen.

Meera:

Yeah, exactly. Awesome. Okay. So we are at the end of the recording. Any, any other final words before we end today’s session?

Client:

Just one more for you specifically, Meera as a person. I think you have a really engaging style. You have a way of, you know, bringing people out of themselves. I felt like I was talking to somebody that felt my pain and could actually talk to me as a human being as opposed to talking to me like I’m a statistic.

Meera:

Thank you so much. That is a very beautiful acknowledgement. Thank you for taking your time, and talk to you soon!

 

I feel motivated when I receive positive reviews and feedback from my clients. Because I know that I was able to provide the value they wanted and help them reach their goals. It’s rewarding and inspires me to be better in providing the service that my clients require from me.

 

I want you to feel excited about your life and the work you do, to consciously create a life filled with love, good health, prosperity, and fulfillment, freeing yourself up to pursue your soul’s calling. Yes, it’s possible! Schedule a conversation with me today, and let’s discuss the practical ways to make it happen for you.

Encouraging a growth mindset at the workplace

What is a growth mindset? And how can we encourage a growth mindset at the workplace?

People with a growth mindset are more likely to enjoy learning, seek out situations to experiment, and see failure as an opportunity to grow.

On the other hand, people with fixed mindsets are easily discouraged by setbacks. They tend to become uninterested and quickly give up.

Growth Mindset At The Workplace

When our results or those of our teams aren’t as expected, we could go down a spiral of impatience, despair, and judgment.

And where focus goes, energy flows. If we continue down that spiral of despair, it is a destructive path and one that’s very difficult to get out from. Thus, encouraging a growth mindset at the workplace is crucial to both an individual and the team’s overall performance.

Hard work, effort, and persistence are essential, but so is having that underlying belief that you control your destiny.

Adopting a Growth Mindset: Questions to Ask Ourselves

Try to look at each day, opportunity, or results with a mindset to grow. Here are some questions that can help encourage a growth mindset at the workplace:

  1. What is one action that I can take to make the best of this day or situation?
  2. What’s within my sphere of influence? (Beware: don’t play too small & ask for support if needed.)
  3. What’re some resources (people, skills, tech, etc.) that I have access to that’ll help me?

The fact is, you can work hard and still feel stuck because your mindset may not be supporting your goals the best way possible. A growth mindset translates to better decision-making skills, better communication, and reaping immense benefits in all spheres of life.

I’d love to know what you think about this, do comment below. What are your insights from this post? How do you encourage a growth mindset at your workplace?

The 3 Levels of Listening to Create Trust and Connection

Are you interested in learning how to build trust and connection effectively?

The best start is by developing your listening skills.

During my rebel days, I used to be a terrible listener. As someone would speak, my excitable mind would be busy formulating a retort and get itself wound up in a million knots.

Until one day, I had a terrible showdown with my father.

In the aftermath of it, with a spinning head, I decided it’s not worth it. I did not want to be so aggravated anymore. By anyone. Ever. Period!

That kickoff a personal development journey. Not bad as an aftermath, huh? I’m a sucker for spotting silver linings, you see?

Flash forward to a few weeks ago, a new client compliments me on how wonderful a listener I am and asks how he can be one too (in the context of leadership, personal life, etc.).

Every time I hear such words, it takes a moment to register them, as I contain my surprise (it still happens!) and make my way back from cloud no.9.

Like what I always tell my clients, “If I can do it, you can do it too.”

So, today let me share with you a framework to help you develop your listening skills.

3 Levels of Listening 

Level 1: FOCUS ON ME

This is the fundamental level of listening where we focus on ourselves. We are listening to respond. We are listening to the internal voices that go around in our heads. The focus is on: What would be my next response? What would I do about this?

Level 2: FOCUS ON THEM

This is where we focus on the other person: what they’re saying, thinking, feeling. We elevate our presence by doing so, by being fully present to the person. People feel heard in this instance, which develops trust.

Level 3: FOCUS EXPANDS BEYOND ME & THEM

This is where we are focusing on energy. We go beyond words. We can actually sense the tone being used. When we are in the person’s physical presence, we can actually see what body language they’re using. This makes the person feel respected, developing trust even further.

Learn how to leverage your leadership skills meaningfully, confidently, and effectively. Schedule a conversation with me today, and let’s discuss how you can make the most of your leadership journey!

Reduce Conflicts & Improve Collaborations

Do you want to develop a greater leadership impact and influence?

Disharmonious work relationships can be a great energy zapper. Not only that, but it also reduces the visibility, impact, and influence of the work we do.

As a leader, one of your key responsibilities is to reduce conflicts and improve collaborations at the workplace.

So how do we make that happen?

By taking radical ownership, because the only thing we can ever change is ourselves. Once we start changing, we will see the effect on others.

Conflict Resolution Strategy

There are many conflict resolution strategies out there, but here are just some that I find helpful: 

1. Acknowledge the conflict early on to prevent the chasm from widening
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2. Take ownership, avoid blame, find a solution
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3. Self-check often
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Conflict is not uncommon to people, not even in the workplace. And yes, resolving conflicts isn’t the easiest thing to do, but it is worth every bit of the effort. You just have to choose how you will respond.

I suggest you try these conflict resolution strategies for 30 days earnestly and let me know how it goes.

As a Leadership Coach and Mentor, I have worked with 100s of leaders and senior managers, dozens of teams & organizations to get moving on their biggest business & personal hurdles.

Schedule a conversation with me today. Let’s talk about how you can leverage your emotional intelligence to develop yourself into the whole spectrum of leadership capabilities— strategically, psychologically & spiritually.

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