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7 Topics to Discuss With Your Coach or Mentor

A decade ago, when I hired my first coach, I had no clue what to expect. Come to think of it, that was the reason I didn’t approach a coach/mentor before.

Looking back, I realized how many opportunities I’ve missed. If only I knew the themes I could discuss with a coach/mentor, I would’ve gotten the support I needed earlier.

It would’ve saved me a ton of time, wasted efforts, money, going around in circles in confusion, crisis, and self-doubt.

When people approach me for support, I understand that they have the same challenge until then, of not knowing what to expect from a coaching & mentoring relationship.

So, I thought I’d put together this quick info for you. I hope it brings a lot more clarity and helps you get the most out of your coaching/mentorship relationship!

Coaching & Mentoring

Here are the seven topics that you can discuss with a coach or mentor:

1. Clarity

Clarity

    • I am not growing in my career. What can I do about it?
    • How can I be a better leader and a good spouse/parent?
    • What is my vision for life? What will make my life purposeful, meaningful?

2. Personal Power & Confidence

Personal Power & Confidence

    • Why do I hesitate to speak up? How can I address the constant sense of self-doubt?
    • How can I be more confident in meetings & interactions?
    • How can I make sure that I’m not standing in my own way through self-sabotaging thoughts?

3. Time & energy management

Time & energy management

    • How can I set my priorities to maximize success?
    • How can I win back “me-time” and “family time”
    • How can I ensure that I stay energized throughout the day and not tired and overwhelmed?

4. Personal Brand

Personal Brand

    • How do I define and communicate my personal brand?
    • How can I position/upsell myself for attractive roles?
    • What sort of mental/physical/skills conditioning do I need to do?

5. Influencing Stakeholders

Influencing Stakeholders

    • How do I influence people – across levels?
    • How can I intentionally create my network?
    • How do I leverage my network?

6. Communication

Communication

    • How do I communicate my value?
    • How can I effectively communicate so that people listen to me?
    • How can I speak effectively in critical meetings & negotiations?

7. Crisis Management

Crisis Management

    • How can I turn around crises and conflicts in situations, relationships?
    • How can I create a more harmonious work culture?
    • How do I make my team members work together? 
    • What can I do about my bad boss?

This is just a guide for what you can expect from your coaching/mentorship relationships.  When you’re ready schedule a conversation with me today and let’s discuss what kind of support would suit you the best.

How To Simplify Your Schedule for Amplified Results

The countless colors in your favorite painting come from 3 primary colors. The master painter knows that to create dramatic hues, all she needs are these three elements. The lack of a broad palette—frees her up.

This metaphor can be applied when we are creating our schedules.

The more we simplify our schedules, the better we become at prioritizing and reaching our goals.

Simplify your schedule to amplify your results

First, identify YOUR 3 primary elements that move the needle when it comes to—your results, career, and life. Or else, you’ll get lost in an endless array of activities that lead to:

  • Overwhelm
  • Fear of failure as you’re not getting the right things done
  • Guilt at not being a fully-present spouse/parent, as at home all you can think of is work

If your week ahead looks like a car crash, a bad traffic jam of back-to-back activities. Honk as much as you want, but you’ll still move slowly, if at all.

𝗠𝘆 𝗺𝗮𝗻𝘁𝗿𝗮? Reduce congestion.

Here’s how you can reduce the congestion that’s likely causing overwhelm:

  1. Determine the three things that’ll move the needle
  2. Slash things that add no value, but make you feel overwhelmed
  3. Delegate bits that don’t need your direct presence

Do you wish to have personalized, laser-focused support in your specific scenario?
Schedule a conversation with me today.

Empower Yourself To Beat Self-Doubt

“Do I have it in me?”, “I’m not good at people-skills,” “This situation is way too challenging…”

These disempowering thoughts have fear and anxiety at their base. The thoughts are not always based on truth either. Despite back-to-back successes, many leaders could still feel this way, especially when facing new situations and challenges that pull the rug out from under their feet.

When we find ourselves in these situations, it can be energy-draining, do you agree?

And to no surprise! Our hungry brains use up 20% of the body’s overall energy? That said, where we focus, our mind consumes our energy.

More thoughts - More neutral activity - More energy burnt

If we are burning precious energy, why waste it on thoughts that don’t move us forward—as human beings, in our careers, or in creating collaborative relationships? It’s essential to sense the learning opportunity & pivot towards more productive thoughts.

The 5 steps to pivot thoughts and use energy for the best outcomes:

  1. Acknowledge what’s happening
    The first step in change starts within you.
    What are the thoughts that help you move forward? What are the thoughts that keep you stuck? Make an inventory, journal for better clarity.
  2. Reframe thoughts for your desired outcome
    “I’ll figure a way out, as I always have. I’m getting better at this every day.”
    Remember instances when you overcame adversity. That’ll help you replace your self-talk with neural or more helpful ones like the above statements.
    Instead of “I am terrible at XYZ… I suck at it,”. This drains energy, inspiration, and efficiency and becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
  3. Prioritize activities that’ll move the needle
    What will move the needle in terms of finding the solutions or creating the outcome you desire? This could involve:

    • Create some quiet space for yourself, free from distractions to do some deep thinking, to come up with solutions
    • Protect your time, cut out distractions from your schedule, time block your priorities into your calendar
    • Find a mentor, coach, or colleague who can help you with resources to figure it out 
    • Attend a training
    • In your 1:1 with your manager, share the intention/plan to progress, and ask for support
  4. Build bridges—the brilliance of collective progress
    Understand your stakeholders to create a win-win.
    Knowing what motivates them will help build bridges. They’ll be more willing to listen to your point of view. This creates allies.
    Remember, this is about understanding another’s motivation and building respect, not manipulation. Manipulation or creating cartels might give short-wins but ruins everything soon.
    If you’re in a meeting, hear with an intention to listen, don’t be quick to dismiss—hearing their PoV can be helpful.
  5. Absorb feedback, continue the growth cycle
    The hallmark of any successful system or individual is the ability to read the environment, see what’s working and what’s not, and be in a state of continuous improvement—personally, with respect to a project or people, etc.
    Enlist a coach or mentor who can help you in that reflection, and bolster your growth even further.
    If you master this skill of directing your focus and energy into more productive thoughts, clear-headedness, strong stakeholder relationships are just some of the benefits you will acquire.

Schedule a conversation with me today. Let’s talk about how you can leverage your emotional intelligence to develop yourself into the whole spectrum of leadership capabilities—strategically, psychologically & spiritually.

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